In his book Thriving at School, child psychologist Dr John Irvine reminds us that a child’s sense of self-worth is often shaped by how valued they feel by others. Here are some of his simple yet powerful suggestions for nurturing that:

• Notice what lights them up. Look for the activities or moments that bring a sparkle to their eyes — these are often clues to their strengths.
• Focus on their successes, even when they’re quick to dwell on failures.
• Teach positive self-talk, gently helping them reframe thoughts like “I’m no good at this” into “I’m still learning.”
• Help them find their “thing” — whether it’s art, sport, kindness, tech, helping around the classroom, or creativity. Recognition often begins with contribution.
• Take time each day to reflect together on one good thing — however small.
• Keep a space for their wins. Scrapbooks, pinboards, or albums like Inicio Albums create a tangible reminder of their journey.

Capturing the Little (but Big) Moments

That’s why Inicio Albums are more than just memory books — they’re a reflection of your child’s growth. They celebrate both the quiet and the proud moments. Whether it’s a music report that praises your child’s tone (even if it gently reminds them to practise more!) or a photo from their first school performance, these pages hold more than paper. They hold identity.

And as those moments gather over time, your child begins to see a story unfold — one where they’re capable, valued, and unique.

Love Without Conditions

Gregg Murset, father of six, put it simply: “Love them for who they are, not what they do.”
That means loving them through the wins and the wobbles. Not using love as a reward, or attention as a form of pressure — but making it clear that they are seen, supported, and deeply loved just as they are.

A Word on Over-Achieving

Of course, in encouraging our kids, we also need to be mindful of perfectionism — that relentless drive that can leave them anxious and never feeling “enough.” Dr Fran Walfish suggests we model self-compassion and gently talk with our children when they’re being hard on themselves. Help them understand that making mistakes isn’t failure — it’s part of being human.

“Each time you let her wrestle with her own self-disappointment,” Walfish says, “you give her an opportunity to grow.”

Believe in Yourself

So let’s remind our children that they don’t have to be the fastest, the smartest, or the best. They just have to discover what they enjoy and what they’re good at — and be seen for it.

Because with every small win we notice, with every gentle word we speak, we help them build a quiet, sturdy belief in themselves.

And from there, everything becomes possible.